All things happen in life for a reason.Having said that, it makes sense to substantiate it from my own experiences.
I am born in a competitive world.If I need something, I need to earn it.To earn it, I need the competence to earn it.And that competence is a relative measure of my capabilities with respect to the capabilities of other people who need the same thing.
The higher the need for that thing in your world, the higher the competence required.Some people are born with high competence, some make them highly competent by training themselves in a particular way,some are neither born with high competence nor have the capability to train themselves but believe that they possess either of these whereas some have made peace with the fact that they are neither born with high competence nor can they train themselves.In my experience, I have found that people who lie in either the first set or the last set are best off.Those who lie in the second set, consider themselves close to the ones in the first set and with little effort achieve pretty much what they want in life.I would consider them better off too.But I sincerely sympathize with the one's who lie in the third set.And these are the people I have seen most in my life.Well, I can relate myself too with them and this is the set that I am going to talk about the most in my article.Henceforth, I would refer to people in the third set as 'we' to keep things simple and clear.
Since the beginning, we look up to those who achieve things just by thinking about them.I had a friend, who just needed to be told about a competition or about a scholarship and he simply used to get it because he wanted it.He never made decisions thinking "Can I do it ?".Rather, he made decisions thinking "Should I do it ?".We on the other hand don't make decisions thinking "Should we do it?".We first chalk out a list of things that we should do. Then from among those things we shortlist things that we can do.And then from among those things that we think we can do, which in itself might be oversubscribed by a large pool of people from the 'we' category we pick up one or two items and start training ourselves to achieve them.
In this process, we encounter other people from the 'we' category thereby making things even harder.To make things even simple, 'we' decided to invent things which came to be known as 'luck' and 'destiny'.So subtle is the nature of 'luck' and 'destiny', that nobody, ever, can dare to define them and challenge them.It is this abstractedness in the very form of 'luck' and 'destiny' that makes one person from 'we' category different from the other 'person' in the 'we' category or else there would be no difference.And it is this difference that accounts for one person's success and the other person's failure.All in the 'we' category.
Whereas all of us in 'we' category, spend the best years of our life to get into the shoes of the people in the first set or the second set discussed above, those in the last set have already achieved that much satisfaction in their life just by knowing what they belong to the last set.
'We', on the other hand just suffer the consequences of incorrect self evaluation and thus take a much harder path to evolution.
